Related Q&As:
- Homosexual?
- There is a brief explanation of what sexual orientation is and how it varies among people. Because labels can sometimes be restricting, the reader is encouraged to view their fantasies as fantasies if they find that more liberating.
- Should I explore my sexuality?
- The reader is validating that exploring is a great way to understand what one is interested in. Because sexual feelings and attractions are complicated, the reader may find their desires change over time. One should find a healthy support system to explore these interests.
- Am I gay? The next generation
- The reader is encouraged to allow their feelings to flourish rather than be suppressed. Because fantasies do not have to be communicated with others, the reader can enjoy them in privacy. Doing so may help them learn more about themself over time.
- Bad experiences with men = Lesbian?
- How sexuality and attraction can change over time is discussed. Because terms associated with sexuality are fluid, the reader is encouraged to explore each term and decide which fits their situation best.
- Bisexual?
- The difference between sex and gender as well as their relationship to sexuality is made clear. A discussion of the different sexualities and how fluid they can be is had. If the reader does not feel comfortable conforming to a label, they do not have to.
- Asking someone about their sexuality
- A few clarifications of what sexuality is are made. Because sexuality is not a concrete process of identity, the reader is provided with a few tips on how to approach someone about their sexuality.
- Gay male in a straight female’s body?
- The different aspects of human sexuality and how the perceptions we have of ourselves are always changing are made clear. A few reflection questions are asked to help the reader understand their feelings related to trans identities. Some resources for further research are provided.
Source 1: 5 common misconceptions about pansexuality
SUMMARY
Sexual identity is personal and can vary from person to person. This source debunks common misconceptions related to those who identify as pansexual:
- Pansexuality and bisexuality are not the same. The former is an attraction to all gender identities or attraction regardless of gender, while the latter is an attraction to multiple gender identities. One can use the two are used interchangeably, though this depends on personal preference.
- Pansexuality is sometimes regarded as being transphobic. However, a pansexual person’s attraction has nothing to do with whether an individual is trans or cis.
- Sometimes, pansexuals can be seen as greedy for being “attracted to everyone”. However, just because pansexual people can be attracted to anyone does not mean that they are automatically attracted to everyone.
- Pansexual people are sometimes confused with being “on the fence” or being close to “being gay”. However, pansexual people are aware of their identity and do not find the need to prove it to anyone.
- Last, people assume that pansexuality is a new trend. However, it has been included in the Oxford English Dictionary since the 1900s. We are more aware of these deemed “newer terms” due to increasing social acceptance and increasing exposure through social media and the internet.
Source 2: Unlabeled - What is it? What does it mean?
SUMMARY
The term unlabeled was created to refer to people who “prefer not to have their gender identity, sexual orientation, or any other identity restricted to a specific category or wording.” It is an umbrella term that can describe someone’s sexual attraction, gender expression, gender identity, or anything related to who they are. The term originates from lesbian subcultures that wanted to promote a safe space for people who felt confused, conflicted, or were transitioning how they identify.
Another term is known as pomosexual. This term refers to people who “openly refuse definitions, categories, groups, or belonging to anything that divides people according to their sexuality.” They openly oppose sexual classifications (bisexual, homosexual, etc.). This is different from unlabeled people as they see labels as something optional they choose to not take part in.
Overall, there are no specific requirements for being unlabeled. What matters is whether or not the term feels right for you.
Source 3: List of LGBTQ+ terms
SUMMARY
This is a good resource for the reader to explore different terms that may describe what they are feeling. We should note that the terms in the previous sources are not mentioned, though I am not sure how to approach that. We could potentially discuss how those terms are created by members of the community and are not as recognized as the terms in this source.
OVERALL CONCLUSIONS:
The response does a really good job of exploring the nuances of sexual identity and comforting the reader. There are new discussions related to the reader’s situation that would be valuable to include.
The introduction is appropriate as it discusses the difficulty with labels and the differences in how people define certain sexual orientations. We should change the last few sentences (“there doesn’t seem to be a term…”) and instead introduce the terms unlabeled and pomosexual as they will be discussed later in the response. It may be appropriate to include the last line “you might find it satisfying…”.
The second paragraph seems like a good place to discuss the two terms. We can do this by replacing the section that says “it seems that there isn’t an agreed-upon term…”. Using source 2, we can exhaust information about being unlabeled or pomosexual. After this, we include the previous paragraph’s idea that “You might find that you have to explain this concept rather than give a one-word answer if someone asks, "What are you?" Better yet, you may wish to explain why you feel that the question is limiting. You appear to be a person who likes to think that identity is complex and deserves more than a one-word answer.”
The previous response’s third paragraph runs through the terms bisexual and pansexual. In this section, it would be appropriate to include misconceptions about pansexuality as for the most part, we focus on bisexuality. We can use source 1 to do so. The next paragraph continues the conversation and reassures the reader that there is no need to conform to either term.
In the closing sentence, it would be helpful to hyperlink source 3 to allow the reader to understand different terms. This could help the reader gain a better understanding of whether or not there is a term they feel comfortable labeling themselves with. Other than that, we should close with a similar sentiment of potentially coming up with a term for themselves.
Notes on research:
Research on this topic was quite difficult as there has been little to no discussion about the terms unlabeled or pomosexual.